Love Loudly: Lessons in Family Crisis, Communication, and Hope

Love Loudly is an award-winning finalist in the Parenting & Family category of the 2013 USA Best Book Awards, sponsored by USA Book News.

My kid won’t listen to me,” parents complain to L.A. County Deputy Sheriff, Mark Cripe. But Cripe knows better. For over fourteen years, he has helped troubled youth and their parents learn new ways to communicate and repair long-damaged relationships.

Kids do listen to their parents, Mark says, but too often, what kids hear is the parents’ frustration and anger, not what those emotions are fueled by: fear. And certainly not what is at the base of most parents’ motivation: love.


Read Sample
  • Sergeant Cripe’s voice is an articulate blend of experience and expertise, culmi- nating in teachable moments for youth advocates and multidisciplinary professionals. Readers will be moved by emotion, leading them to constructive action for children. Love Loudly provides insight into a world where so many adults need to venture so all children are heard and respected. All children deserve to receive Love Loudly and Sergeant Cripe provides us with the critical insight needed to reach children, especially when they appear “unreachable.”
    Kathleen Van Antwerp, EdD
    Professor of Education and Child & Adolescent
    Development Founder, One Circle, Inc. and Knowledge-Based Parenting
  • This is not a book written by some behavioral PhD or child psychologist looking for more speaking engagements. This is a hard walk through the trenches in the battles we all face as parents. The stories are raw and real, sometimes heartbreaking and sometimes joyful. But if we’re honest, kids and parents are sometimes heartbreaking one moment and joyful the next. Cripe takes us through it all with grace and a humility that is missing from every other treatment on the subject. This is not a parenting book but a memoir from a man who has raised three excellent kids of his own plus hundreds of others through the VIDA program. My only regret is not reading this before raising my own four kids.
    Mike Barrett
    Author of The Danger Habit (Random House 2007)
    CEO of Unosquare
  • Sergeant Mark Cripe has a very unique insight coming from years of education, training, and real life experience, both as a valued member of law enforcement and that of an ordinary father, husband, and law-abiding citizen. From the moment you open his book one immediately senses his understanding, support, and commitment to the welfare, hopes, and dreams of other parents and their relationships with their children. Love Loudly shares Mark’s insights, skills, and abilities with others in this most difficult aspect of our world. I know, I have witnessed this first hand myself.
    John Hutak, DPA, Public Administration
    Superintendent of Schools (retired) School Safety
    Security Consultant
  • In my fifteen years as a teacher and advocate of at-risk students, Mark is one of the most empathetic, compassionate, understanding, and genuine people I have had the pleasure to work with. He has such an incredible way of using experiences from his life’s journey to relate to those he works with, teaches, and comes in contact with. The two most powerful emotions we have are love and fear. This book can be used as a seedling to assist and develop your emotional tree one branch at a time.
    Debbie Billingsley
    Special Education Teacher, Utah
  • Sergeant Mark Cripe, LASD, has written a gripping book that all parents, parenting instructors, and youth should read. It is a “through the looking glass” account of one man’s journey to becoming one of the “good ones” who work with at-risk youth (all youth) and their parents, teaching them to have meaningful, healthy relationships with others, especially the ones they love most, and to have useful insight and tools for a successful journey. This account tells how we can sort our “baggage” to identify the important tools we have attained in life and use those tools to heal what may have first appeared as a fatal wreck, helping to make whole what was thought to be lost.
    Mark E. Nathanson, PhD, CDAAC, RAS
  • This book opens your eyes to the dynamic blindness that has captured us throughout the years. It earnestly places you in different perspectives and makes you think “what would I do?” It is important that we take a hard look at ourselves and begin the meticulous process of making effective changes in our lives, our loved ones, and humanity.
    Finella White
    Special Education Teacher
    VIDA Educator for Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department
  • The single largest epidemic of our time is the destruction of our children. Unfortunately, this disease is being created by parents. If you want to immunize your family from the disaster of failed love and connection in your childhood, then Mark Cripe has finally shared the answer. Admitting that men can be tough, even when frightened and confused, Mark takes the understanding of the “angry 60s parenting model” to real healing family connection. Thank God for this insight. Our children might have hope for solid families.
    Vicky Thomas, DCH
    Author, Ho’oponopono – A Deep and Lasting Forgiveness Process
    Master Hypnotist Trainer
  • Mark has an incisive ability to tap that part of truth that is real to us all . . . as a result, he gently encourages us to live to this potential in all aspects of our lives . . . the humbling reality is made easy by his engaging ability to touch what is right in us long enough for us to remember that it is important and needs our attention.
    Brian Mattson, PhD
    Justice Analytics, Inc.

About the Author

Mark first escaped his dysfunctional and abusive home through backpacking with the local scouting troop. He left home for good as a seventeen-year-old, enlisting in the U.S. Marine Corp.

After serving in the Marines, Mark went to college to be a marriage counselor but soon developed a desire to work with youth within the faith-based community. This evolved into a focus in education with an emphasis on wilderness experiential education. Mark was a wilderness backcountry guide for several California-based companies working with “at-risk” youth, CEOs, and families. He also did a stint as a professional rock climber for Disneyland. Together with his wife (his best friend), Mark backpacked across thirteen countries and was homeless for eight months upon return to the States.

Eventually, Mark found employment with the largest sheriff’s department in the world, in Los Angeles County. It did not take long before his assignments steered him toward delinquency intervention. Mark received the prestigious “Leadership and Communication” award from Toastmaster International, and he has been recognized by the California State Senate, the Governor of California, and the United States Congress for his work in juvenile intervention. His focus has gone from street gangs to child abuse to delinquency intervention. Now in his 24th year as a deputy sheriff, Mark has worked the last fourteen years in juvenile delinquency intervention, where he developed a state-certified Juvenile Intervention Instructors Course that has trained numerous community-based leaders and other law enforcement agencies.

Mark continues to work with families in crisis, focusing on the challenges of parenting and spreading the belief that if we can change the way adults communicate, we will change the way kids behave!


About the Author

Mark first escaped his dysfunctional and abusive home through backpacking with the local scouting troop. He left home for good as a seventeen-year-old, enlisting in the U.S. Marine Corp.

After serving in the Marines, Mark went to college to be a marriage counselor but soon developed a desire to work with youth within the faith-based community. This evolved into a focus in education with an emphasis on wilderness experiential education. Mark was a wilderness backcountry guide for several California-based companies working with “at-risk” youth, CEOs, and families. He also did a stint as a professional rock climber for Disneyland. Together with his wife (his best friend), Mark backpacked across thirteen countries and was homeless for eight months upon return to the States.

Eventually, Mark found employment with the largest sheriff’s department in the world, in Los Angeles County. It did not take long before his assignments steered him toward delinquency intervention. Mark received the prestigious “Leadership and Communication” award from Toastmaster International, and he has been recognized by the California State Senate, the Governor of California, and the United States Congress for his work in juvenile intervention. His focus has gone from street gangs to child abuse to delinquency intervention. Now in his 24th year as a deputy sheriff, Mark has worked the last fourteen years in juvenile delinquency intervention, where he developed a state-certified Juvenile Intervention Instructors Course that has trained numerous community-based leaders and other law enforcement agencies.

Mark continues to work with families in crisis, focusing on the challenges of parenting and spreading the belief that if we can change the way adults communicate, we will change the way kids behave!