When do we stop using patience and kindness to encourage our children to get back up and try again?
Sounds like a silly question at first, right? However, when our children are small and learning to walk, we help them over and over. We encourage them to get back up and try again, and again, and again. We get excited at every step forward and celebrate their small steps. Fast-forward a million steps later, and we have teenagers. Are we still encouraging our children through their failures, or do we find ourselves frustrated and angry with them for not getting a task done correctly?
Over the years, I have worked with numerous parents who were extremely upset about the failures their child was experiencing. I have heard parents blame the child for being lazy, stupid, or rebellious because he or she could not complete a task as well as the parents wanted. Whether it is in school or somewhere else, the parents could not understand the child’s failure.
How do we expect our children to risk learning new things and exploring their environments if we teach them that falling down is a bad thing? Is that what we do when they are learning to walk? No! So why do we behave that way when they reach their teen years?